Get it out

This week I had an incredible conversation with someone who I trust dearly. We discussed a tendency I have in my personal life to react to certain challenging situations with the typical M.O. of putting on a smile and convincing everyone, myself included, that everything is awesome. Even when something like this may be closer to reality…

Get it out.PNG

I smile. I work hard. I get shit done. On the outside, everything looks totally great. And people, for the most part, love me too – I get to be the happy one who everyyyyyone else depends on. Frankly, it’s great. …Or so I thought it was.

How does this serve me? Well, I get a lot done, I function really highly, and people know that they can depend on me.

 

…But at what cost?

 

Initially, I’d thought not much – I was “happy” and telling people that everything was wonderful. What could be wrong with creating a reality where my shit didn’t stink? Then I didn’t have to smell it, nor would I have to inconvenience others with it either.

 

The problem with not actually addressing things in life that are uncomfortable is multifold:   By ignoring problems, they get worse. And no, your specific situation isn’t an outlier that doesn’t apply to this situation. Really. When you ignore things they don’t go away – at best the issue remains the same, feeling uncomfortable and unresolved (which I would argue makes it worse), and most always gets worse by ignoring it. I promise.

 

Think about legitimately any issue you’ve had in your life. I’m gonna give the example of a splinter I had once when I was a kid. I got a splinter in the ball of my foot from my wooden deck when I was playing around and didn’t want to tell my mom because I knew she’d have to get it out with a needle and that would be uncomfortable. So, what did I do? I pretended I was fine, went to soccer practice, and told myself it would go away. Spoiler alert: It did not go away. The thing got pushed deeper into my foot causing a HUGE blister and it got infected immediately, and essentially my mom had to conduct surgery to cut it out of my foot (she’s not that kinda doctor). And don’t even get me started on how painful it was to take the thing out. It was so infected and so tender I still shutter just thinking about it, I couldn’t play for like a week. Miserable.

 

Consider what would have happened if right then and there when I’d scuffed my foot, I’d done something to get the splinter out. Sure, there was potential for a little discomfort upfront, but that little pain was nothing compared to the resulting fiasco it was to get the thing out once it had burrowed into the ball of my foot.

 

The analogy applies aptly to our emotions.** By limiting emotions or pushing down feelings we create a pressure that ultimately builds up into an infected blister surrounding the splinter of painful emotion. When you ignore real problems you limit experiences and void opportunities for openness and thus closeness that you otherwise would have grown from. You also create a buildup of pressure that at minimum causes discomfort, and often leads to deterioration of relationships, misunderstandings and resentment. The other thing that happens if you actually just talk about whatever the little thing is upfront is that there’s less tension that initially builds up and thus it’s a much easier and less painful to release.

 

We’ve all fallen victim to the opposite approach: Think about the time you got into it with a loved one or significant other. Something was bothering you and you didn’t say anything over and over again until they looked at you wrong or accidentally knocked over a glass and you FLIPPED out at them creating a much bigger fight that erupted not from this one little incident, but from the pressure buildup of not addressing the root issue.

 

We all do this, myself included, with good reason. We don’t just form opinions about our communication tendencies (like ignoring problems or sweeping them under the rug) out of thin air. It’s done because we learned that doing so benefited us in some way, and thus we concluded this was the best or “right way” to proceed. For me, ignoring conflict was the “best” way to make it go away and not cause, what I saw, as unnecessary waves as a young adult. For me, by ignoring problems I (wrongly) thought I’d avoid conflict and thus be able to get along better with everyone including myself. What actually happened was that I didn’t work on improving relationships and missed out on opportunities for personal growth. I missed out on talking with those I trust to gain perspective from them, I missed out on the chance to improve the relationships with conflict, and I missed out on the chance to honor myself by acknowledging my feelings and actually asking for what I wanted, not just get by with the scraps I was given.

 

I want to acknowledge how absolutely terrifying it is to talk about problems or conflict you are experiencing. There’s no way around it, talking about your feelings, something you are going through, or challenges in relationships is vulnerable. It feels dangerous. And of course, it would be easier in the short-term not to ask for help or support.

 

It just feels easier to ignore the problem, and that’s not your fault. We are all programmed that way – first we avoid pain, and then we seek pleasure. And this kind of work definitely feels scary and painful to do. Then, on top of that fear and pain of communication there is today’s world of technology and social media and what I wrote about in my last post of “instaperfect” filters on life. It’s easier to send a text then to make a call, post the pretty photo then a real one, and ignore the problem instead of getting it out in the open.

For me it’s always felt like something that should be my problem and that I need to “get over” or not talk about for fear of making that other person uncomfortable or upset. What I’ve learned though, is that by not talking about the tough stuff with compassion and curiosity, I’m being unfair to myself and unfair to the relationship – whatever it is, and it will always just push that splinter deeper inside making it hurt much, much more when eventually it has to come out.

This exact issue is a large part of what brought me to coaching and why I’ve worked with a therapist – both of whom have helped me to grow in this area immensely. Sometimes having a totally outside, non-biased opinion can really help you to see things more clearly. My coach has helped me to understand how not talking about the painful stuff was meeting some of my needs in low-quality ways, and thus not serving me. My therapist has helped me to understand why I was operating the way I was and what it stemmed from. My best friends have supported me and encouraged me as I make these changes and foster more open and communicative relationships. All of this has felt uncomfortable because it was new, but I can tell you it’s been completely worth it. I feel better and my relationships with myself and those who I love are better for it.

Look deep on this one. It’s not always easy nor does it happen overnight, but by consistently working to make small shifts in your actions and perspectives, and relying on those who you trust, I promise you you’ll start to feel a lightness you’ve been missing. And I also promise you it’s worth the work. The time passes anyway, so why not make it worth living?

 

 

 

 

**[Side note: if you’ve not read The Wisdom of Sundays by Oprah Winfrey I highly recommend it – she discusses this topic extensively]

Take Time to Care for Yourself


Take a walk and ask yourself as you start out “what do I need?” as you move forward, quiet your mind and listen to what your heart tells you. Today I did just that and while I walked the beach, what I was heard was that I needed love. Receiving love and giving love – that it will put me at peace.

 

Then, out of some stroke of loving universal magic, as I was walking back to my apartment I passed some beautiful gardens and a groundskeeper, who I said hello to. I stopped for a moment, slightly unsure why, but I did. A few moments passed and I heard the man chopping at something I assumed to be a tree and turned around to see him sipping water from a coconut. At first, I just watched but I couldn’t stop myself and asked if I could try some. He obliged, cutting me my own fresh coconut, and we introduced ourselves. Allen is a kind eyed middle-aged man from Negril in Jamaica who has been here in Miami for 14 years.

 

He tells me of the benefits of coconut water, pointing out that this is the only water that touches your heart, which he says to me so very kindly while holding his chest. We chat a bit more as his words sink in and it’s time for him to go punch out of his shift. I sit for a moment reflecting on the beauty of what just happened to me and am filled with gratitude. This moment was so beautiful, and I am so thankful to have been fully present for it.

 

I’ll tell you – this didn’t just happen overnight, and this perfect moment was preceded by many full of pain. I’ve worked very hard and gone through some serious changes and loss over the past three months and am happy to say that while every day is not perfect that I have put in the work and time to feel myself again.

It’s okay for every moment not to be “instafilter perfect”, but it’s also really important to do what you need to take care of yourself.

The time passes anyway, so do the work to give yourself what you need to heal: Step away from those who aren’t serving your needs, exercise regularly, take your vitamins, drink water, go to therapy or talk to a trusted friend for support, write, process, grieve. Tell someone when you are struggling. We are all going though our own shit, and none of us have to do it alone. I promise you that with time, work, and processing it does get better – and if life gives you lemons…go get a coconut and drink it.

Feel the Bad

It's funny -- sometimes life and coaching seem to really sync up. These past few weeks I've found myself needing to hear the same lessons I was sharing with many of my clients. Given the conversations I've recently had, and how I've been feeling, I'd be willing to venture a guess that my clients and I aren't the only ones needing this, so I wanted to share it with you, too. :)

 Society, media, and  expectations of what life should be, combined with personal pressures we put on ourselves have completely filled all of us with expectations that that we shouldn't ever feel bad, hurtful, sad, anxious, or generally negative emotions or feelings. Like, ever. Sure, you can have a crappy day, but actual sadness, or real negative emotions -- keep those out of sight and out of mind at all costs! It seems like we all have this collective belief that if our feeling hurts or is uncomfortable, it is automatically bad and we need to stop it immediately. So what do we do? We ignore it, we eat, we drink, we medicate, we spend time with others, become obsessed with work, somehow over commit or over engage -- we do anything we can to get lost in the daily grind so we don't have to actually deal with those emotions.

Just lock those feelings right up and throw away the key. We are expected not to let them out or ever let those feelings  show. But the thing is, when we ignore painful emotion, it really hurts us and those around us. We aren't being real or sincere, nor are we allowing ourselves to process and actually deal with the emotions -- and logically we all know what that's going to do to us….we know it's going to backfire, but we do it anyway.

Well I have a question -- WHAT.  THE.  HELL?!

Why? Why do we do this to ourselves?!!! After LOTS of reflection on the New Year and 2018 overall and undergoing some really serious personal challenges these last few weeks I have learned a lot about accepting and understanding feelings.

Here's the thing: "bad" feelings are. Not. Bad. They are there to serve, love, protect, and support you. They may not feel good in the moment, and may frankly feel damn right terrible, but those feelings manifested for a reason. That reason was to serve. Ignoring those feelings is like staying inside a burning building when you see smoke and hear the fire alarms going off. If you don't do something about it soon, you're going to get torched.

The next time you are feeling down in whatever way, I'd invite you stop and allow yourself to feel the feelings. I know, it sounds really scary. Something I've learned over the past few weeks is that a lot of the time our fear of negative emotion is actually a lot worse than if I just let myself feel it. Without animosity towards it, without judgement of myself, and without expectation of what I "should" feel, I'm learning to just allow. Just that that feeling flow. There is nothing wrong with how you feel, the emotion arose for a reason. So let it happen and as it's moving through you sit with it so that you can take some time to figure it out. The first thing about feeling your feelings is this: it's not going to be fun, but I promise you it's not as bad as we build it up to be. Sit in it, if you want to cry, do it. Want to scream? Do it. Want to sulk -- go for it, babe. The first step towards processing an emotion is letting it actually happen. When you allow the emotion to flow from you instead of bottling it up, it's stuck inside you for much less time and thus actually affects you less. It's much easier to let that feeling go, by simply acknowledging it and letting it happen.

Next, I usually feel some kind of stress or anxiety or negativity about the "bad" emotion because I want it to go away. So I'm upset or feel guilty about feeling badly. Okay, fair -- but to look at my emotion in a healthy way, it's important to understand the feeling and V A L I D A T E it so that you feel heard.

Here's why: Think about that one friend or family member of yours who always, without fail, makes you feel better if you go to them needing help, advice, or to talk about a problem. I ASSURE you that each of these people have at least one common theme - that theme is validation. They allow you and give you permission or tell you that your feelings are reasonable.

I'd even bet that you've done the same for someone else when they've needed it. And it really helps. The best thing anyone can to do help someone to feel better and heard is to listen and validate their feelings. Truly, that's all anyone wants. You owe yourself the same courtesy. Try it. Allow yourself to feel hurt or sad, without judgement, and watch what happens.

 

Give yourself time with this.

What I have found works for me when I'm ready to start processing and moving though the feelings is to start to examine the source of my painful emotions -- go deep on this. It isn't just the "well he was being a jerk and I didn't like that" Okay, sure, but why? What did you like about it? And why didn't you like it. Keep asking why. You felt threatened? You felt dismissed? Vulnerable? What really was it that resulted in those negative feelings. The best way to process emotion that I have found is getting to a place of understanding where the source of the pain is. This will take some work, but I assure you it's better than burning down in a bottled up inferno of negative emotion. (I've tried both, trust me on this, processing is better)

Okay so, you've allowed the feelings, accepting them for what they are, and not judged yourself for them having them. Now what? Honestly and kindly ask yourself how these feelings have been serving you. What are they acting to do? Are they working to meet a need of certainty or security, or maybe to give you a sense of significance that's been missing, or to protect you from something? Typically in some way or another it's to protect you or something around you.

 As you work through these thoughts writing can really help -- just putting thoughts to paper (or blog) can really help you release the need hold onto them so tightly. When you are ready, and there truly is no rush on this, you deserve time to process and sit with your feelings, start to think about how you'd prefer to feel about the thing that caused your negative emotion and begin to think about genuinely how you'd like to feel instead. Start to replace the negative or hurting focus with focus on this new emotion. I've found that by allowing myself to actually feel my feelings, that they move through me more quickly and I'm more able to exchange the hurting feelings for better feelings ones once they've run their course.

 Bottom line: You are deserving of your feelings. Allow yourself to feel them. It won't be as bad as your fear of them, and I promise it will help with processing. Take your time and extend yourself the same love and grace you would to a dear friend experiencing pain. You deserve your own compassion.

New Year...New Notebook!

Okay call me crazy (or awesome) but I LOVE the new year – there’s just something my slightly OCD mind loves about starting new and having a clear, clean delineation of when and where fresh start is. So HAPPY NEW YEAR people!!!

With that being said – I have started my new year with all fresh new notebooks: One for my gratitude practice (more on that soon), one for the office, and one for random note taking at home.

If you are like me, you had a perfectly good notebook, or a few, that you were using, still with unused pages in it, from December and before. There are manyyyy of you who enjoy the satisfaction of finishing a notebook or using one up to save paper. That is completely logical and I completely support you. For me, I’ll be keeping my notebooks for extra scrap paper, and am starting with all fresh notebooks in the new year.

Maybe it’s like starting a new year of school for me, just #adulting style, but there’s something about this new chapter in life we are given that for me, asks for clean, crisp, new notebooks so that I have fresh perspective free from the past year weighing down my thoughts, ideas, planning and writing for the new year.

Take it for what you will, but if you are considering it, I’d highly encourage you to get some fresh notebooks, and maybe a fun new pen to kick off 2019.

If you like this idea and would like some additional support planning for a successful 2019 click here to get my 2019 annual planner to help reach your new years goals.

Sending love for a happy, healthy, and wealthy 2019!

#FeelGood

HEY there and happy Mondayyyy!!!

 …but is it? Really?

How’s your mood today? How did you feel when you woke up? As you commuted to work, went through your day, got home…maybe got dinner, went to the gym, hustled to get some last-minute gifts. Whatever it was that you spent your time doing -- Were you going through the motions? Were you getting as much as you could out of your day?

 How are you really feeling?

Today for me really was not all rainbows and butterflies. I won’t lie, when I got up today, I was not looking forward to my week. I have shopping I still need to do, my kitchen sink flooded all of my lower cabinets last night and has been a hot mess, and on top of it all, I haven’t been feeling well – So in summary:  Lots that I could be, and was, grumpy about today. Great. Happppy Monday. (I say sarcastically)

Part of how I start every day is writing – I set an intention for my day, write several things that I am working for in my life as though I’ve already completed them, and then write ten things that I am grateful for or that make me happy. This gratitude provides me with perspective and balance. You can always find ten+ things, if you really look, that you are grateful for. Heck, you’re alive, right? (No, don’t laugh and say you wish you weren’t. You know that’s not the case if you really think about it.) This morning ritual really helps me to look for the good in every day. And typically, that gratitude practice snaps me out of whatever’s been going on, and I’m back to my normal, happy self. But for whatever reason, while today it definitely helped, it didn’t completely pull me out of the weeds.

 

Then, I got the office and I had to coach. When I coach, I put everything else down and focus intensely on the client I am working with. It’s my job to help them with what they need, what’s going on in their life, and how we can both support that person’s growth. Today, with one specific client, we added some real value to their life that truly is going to change the quality of this person’s every day. It took collaboration and focus from both of us to come up with real, actionable solutions for this client’s goals, and we figured it out and put a plan in place. This person was so excited to move forward, and that excitement was such a gift to me. Because I was willing to put the shit from today down to give to someone else, I completely stepped outside of myself and the “crappy day” I was having and dedicated myself to helping this person to get what they needed. The hour went by so quickly neither one of us realized it, and in just 60 short minutes my client had tools they needed to drastically improve their life, and I, magically felt better. Completely better. Like weight lifted, “what was I complaining about again??” Gone.

 

Getting outside of my own head and my own life and giving support to someone else entirely changed how I feel about my day and the week to come.

 

Now, while you dear reader, may be saying “Yeah that’s great, but I’m not a life coach, and I don’t directly get to work with and help people every day” – I’d really challenge you on that. I bet you that if you looked around today, that you could find at least one opportunity to reach out to someone and share a random act of kindness, love, or support to a person who could really use it.

 

If you take action to help someone with the genuine intention of giving them the support they need, that your service will positively impact that them and will truly help you. You will feel much better on the other side of it, really. It may not cure you of whatever you are struggling with, but if you make a practice, every day, of supporting those around you, it will start to move the needle forward and you will begin to feel better.

 

If you are struggling right now to find the joy in your everyday – I’d challenge you over the next 10 days, to provide 10 acts of kindness or support to those around you – this could be to people you know, or to random strangers. Either works. Go into this with an open mind and good intentions and I betcha you’ll like what you get out of it. And as an added bonus, you’ll make the world a little brighter.

 

Try it. What do you have to lose?? Let me know how you feel on the other end. I can’t wait to hear all about it.

 

Sending my love,

Do the thing that scares you...

Ever get a super cool idea, but then don’t do anything about it, or have an urge to try something new, and then…ya don’t??

You are not alone my friend. This happens to everyone and is a result of basic survival programming. The good news is that by understanding why we try to avoid making change or doing things that would be good for us, but that make us uncomfortable, we can short circuit our brains and use logic take back control of life!

For the most part we hate doing scary things and avoid anything that feels even slightly uncomfortable at all costs…but WHY?!

Life experience, coaching, and basic human psychology all teach that we, as human beings, are wired to first to avoid pain at all costs (ie, the scary thing) and then to seek pleasure once the pain has been avoided. Typically that seeking pleasure isn’t actually enjoyable. It just keeps us within the confines of sticking to what we know functioning, on auto pilot, and playing it safe. What does this mean in practice though??

Typically it means that we do exactly what we have been doing and do not to go outside of those boundaries because our primal brains know those boundaries we have created and operate within are safe, and that we can stay alive and exist as long as we keep doing what we have been doing. So for example even if we don't like our job, our morning routine (or lack thereof), how we keeping our home, our relationships, our health, not writing that book, whatever that “thing” is that we are kind of interested in doing but feels scary… we keep doing that "safe" thing, not because we are excited by it, but because our most basic programming knows that we are safe and that we can survive doing the thing we have been doing. It also fears failure and tells us that it's better to just not do the thing because if we tried it and failed, that would be terrible.

But ask yourself…would you really be worse off if you just tried? And what's the worst that could happen? Truly think about it…

I am absolutely victim to this programming too -- in particular with this website. I've had the site mostly constructed for months, but was terrified to put it out to the world for your eyeballs to read.

Why????

Because it's vulnerable -- I'm sharing my writing, my life, and my experiences in a way that you, dear reader, can look at and judge in whatever way you like. And that's scary for me because I don’t have any control over your impressions of my work.

BUT it's also brave and exciting, because I am doing something new and totally differently than I have before. I'm sharing my life and business in a way I never thought that I would. And in addition to the fear and frankly the terrifying adrenaline I've felt by sharing this site with all of you, I've also been super exhilarated and excited by it.

The initial jump of making the change is always scary -- but it's also worth it, even if the thing "fails" because we will have learned something or had an experience we would not have had otherwise. When I talk with clients about the times they've felt most alive or excited in their life, the answers I get pretty much unanimously surround times of change or transition or doing something "wild and crazy" or different from their current status quo of life.

So, ask yourself right now: When in my life have I felt most alive? What was happening? What did I do? Who was involved? Where was I? I'd BET that you'll likely have some sort of answer that surroundings doing things that were or could have been lightly fear invoking, but that you did anyway.

This primal feeling of fear or uncertainty stemming from our most basic programming to avoid pain isn't serving us here today. Sure, it did a great job of keeping us as part of the pack and alive thousands of years ago -- but really, today, not much is going to actually be dangerous to you. It's simply your adversity and fear to change -- but with no grounding!

As Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote, and my dear friend and colleague, Jen, reminded me as I was talking with her about my anxiety of sharing my website for all of the world to see:

Do the thing you fear most and the death of fear is certain.

I can tell you from experience this week that even though it was terrifying to share this website with all of you, I am more motivated and excited than I've felt the entire time I was putting it together, and that sharing more of who I am is serving me FAR better than not publishing this sit would have been.

So I challenge you this week to do one thing that scares you. It could be asking that person out you've wanted to ask but have been too afraid to try, volunteering to take on that project at work, starting a conversation with someone you wouldn't normally talk with, asking for that raise or promotion, starting to job search, going ice skating -- ANYTHING. Just pick one thing …you'll know what it is, because there will be little alarm "don't do it!" bells going off inside of you. Simply acknowledge those fears as trying to protect you from something you don't need to be saved from, and move towards the "scary" thing. Just rip the band aid and do it. I promise it'll be fun once it's over and that you'll be happier, stronger, and more productive for it!

The things that you don't do, try and reach for are the ones you'll end of regretting in the grand scheme of life. Don't let that fear rob you of the fun, changing experiences that you so deserve!

Strategic Laziness -- The Key to Your Sanity & Your success

As I wind down this Friday – I’ve caught myself getting overwhelmed with all the things that need to get done over the weekend before I can relax. The tension steadily rose in my shoulders as I leaned closer and closer into my computer screen, and I stressed more and more about all of the things to be done before Thanksgiving. I was physically tensing up and began to spiral just thinking about how much I needed to do….AHHH!

 So what did I do as the life coach I am, you ask??

I got up, moved my body, and got a cup of water. By changing my physical state, I could shift my mental perspective into a problem solving mode (more on the science behind that later…for now, you’ll just have to trust me 😉 )

So often when we are in the world of coaching and personal development we focus on what we have to get done or move toward as part of reaching those incredible goals we have set for ourselves. Every day my clients and I discuss these questions:

  • “What’s the 80/20 here?”

  • “What do we have to get done, and how are we going to do it as efficiently as possible?”

  • What’s your outcome?”

  • “What’s next?”

These are all important questions, but it’s equally if not more important to know when you need to re-calibrate and take a few minutes or a few hours for yourself to recharge. I’m not kidding you when I tell you one of my life’s mantras is “Get Shit Done” and yes, it is very important that we get the things done (and yes, I’m aware my last post was all about tracking progress!!) we also NEED balance in our lives so that we can get everything done! 

You cannot serve yourself, your goals, or others if you are not taking time to fuel yourself up – to fill your cup. Often when clients are new to coaching those who feel the most lost (myself included!!!) have stopped making themselves and their recharge time a priority. This was something that I really struggled with because I felt like I had so much to do that I didn’t deserve time to rest, or to take time to care for myself.

When I began to set up daily self-care rituals to support my wellbeing, a morning meditation, a night time wind down, etc. and set aside about two hours a weekend for myself to simply relax, it was astounding how much more balanced and in control of the chaos I felt.

 So – my advice to you this weekend is to schedule yourself some down time. In the world of coaching we call this Strategic Laziness, which I happen to love!! This is time for you to be strategic in giving yourself time to relax and truly unwind. Select an hour or two when the cleaning, laundry, to do lists, shopping, phone calls, kids, significant others, job searching, resume writing, doing of everything else can take a back seat to you. Allow yourself to go for a walk, take a long shower or luxurious bath, read, take a yoga class, deep condition your hair, stretch, do something that feels good for YOU!

Make this a weekly routine and you will start to see results taking shape in the form of more happiness and less stress.

This weekend I’ll be getting a pedicure bright and early Saturday morning, because it’s the time I know I’ll have to myself, so I am making it a priority! What will your strategic laziness look like this weekend?

 

My best,

Sarah

Sick of Counting the Clock?

Sick of just making a paycheck and counting down the hours down from Monday until Friday at 5:00, only to feel professionally unsatisfied???

You are not alone my friends.

If you feel like you don’t even know where to begin or what to do to make moves to help become more professionally satisfied, I’d recommend first starting with a brainstorm. Remember, that with a brainstorm nothing is a bad idea, and that often a ton of crazy, random, or “bad” ideas can result in a strike of genius.

Put three minutes on a timer and have a pen and a stack of post-it notes. Start your stop watch and write down as many as possible ideas, one per post-it, of actions you can take or things you can do to improve your situation professionally. The three minutes will feel like a l o n g time – just keep writing.

Maybe it’s talking to your boss about that promotion or salary increase, maybe it’s finally writing your resume, applying to new jobs, or stepping up to take on a project you know would challenge you. Just make the list.

Then, once your three minutes are up, read through and organize your post-its into categories of great ideas, maybes, and probably nots. Start with your great ideas, pick your favorite, and spend 2-3 more minutes outlining five actionable steps you can take to get there. What are five things you need to do to get there?? Then, select the first step, put a time to do it on your calendar and FOLLOW through.

The best way to ensure you follow through is to plan for a specific time to do “the thing”, tell someone (like a colleague, manager, friend, or significant other) when you’re going to do it, and then tell them when it’s completed.

This will be your first step in changing your time at work from “Screw this sh*t o’clock” to making a life, and not just a living.

- Sarah